Just the fact that friendship is such a subjective part of our life and still that much absolutely necessary shows how twisted the human mind is.
I doubt anyone in their life has never “tried” to make friends or has had some sort of struggle with that in their lives. I also doubt that no one had to go through some sort of betrayal of trust or pain, by just having too many expectations because of trying “too hard” or maybe just because the other person was an ass. In any way, this is a mark imprinted on to us for life. It isn’t like love. Love you can ignore, undo, repeat, fast forward, rewind and begin again, but friendships remain, through storms, Spring and everything in between.
I had a best friend since I was a baby, we were the perfect “chuddy buddies”. We knew everything about each other. Our parents were friends. We went to the same classes and stuff. We swam at the same beaches, ate at the same restaurants, she had my shoulder to sleep on during road trips…we were invincible. Nothing could break us, but then because of some misunderstanding we broke up. We had our huge fight, we yelled, hated each other for days, competed with each other, and had our issues and she landed into wrong people's company. One morning my neighbour woked me up and said she is no more, she attempted a suicide and after some months I did came to know the reason why she did that but I cannot include the reason here. That was my first friendship, the best there could have been & I do miss her always..
After that, I joined my college I made friends, got close to many and met so many people. I am lucky that today after everything, I have the best-est friends in the world and thats Pavtra, Shifa, Vafa, Sara, Reshma, Namrata, Gauri, Rishita, & Aliya (another childhood buddy) and they are great support to me.. When I look back from the day I've known them, I do feel that the best friendships that remain are the ones where there is no pretending, no compromising, no hypocrisy, just reality. If you want a friendship to work, don’t compromise. Don’t dull your shine for someone else, for the sake of it. Be as real as your soul, but then again, we have all run in to “friends” that just took you as the plastic water bottle along the way. Once they have had all the water from you, they throw you away and get on to a new Bisleri. It’s funny how I actually have a visual for this. But the funnier part is, they don’t realize that those bottles are non-recyclable. Those people never get a chance ever again and they shouldn’t. Saying that “people change” is the lamest excuse of the world.
Friendship is about blending in to each other. The best being the ones that have gone through the most change and survived. They are the ones most damaged, the most worn out, the most loved, the most hated, the most trampled on, guaranteed by the 17 years of experience. It doesn’t depend on how long those friendships have been, it’s about the honesty you’ve put in to it. Like relationships, friendships can’t be built on lies.
The biggest and best friendship in this world is the one you have with your sister, who have seen you cry, beg and be completely vulnerable. You have seen them at their worst, their best. They loved you, cared for you, and might have even apologized to you, asking for nothing in return. How much more honest can that get?
“Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art… It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival. ” - C. S. Lewis
HAPPIEE FRIENDSHIP'S DAY!
(these pictures are of my all time best-buddies & and my sisters [aalia,nemrila & cyndrella], because they are the bestest friends to me & can do anything for them)
